Why So Many Relationships Fail - And What Most People Get Wrong

Many people think they enter relationships for love, but often it’s to fill something missing - loneliness, insecurity, lack of purpose, or the need for validation. Instead of building themselves up first, they look for someone else to complete them. This may feel good at the start, but it creates a fragile foundation where the relationship is based on need rather than strength.

You Can’t Expect Someone Else to Fix You

No relationship can truly fix insecurity or create lasting self-worth. When someone depends on their partner for those things, it creates pressure and imbalance. The relationship becomes about emotional survival instead of growth, often leading to anxiety, unrealistic expectations, and eventual burnout.

Completing vs Complementing

Healthy relationships are not about completion, they are about complementing. Two people who are confident, grounded, and growing on their own come together to enhance each other’s lives - not to fill gaps. This creates a relationship built on choice, not dependency.

Why Social Media Makes It Worse

Social media promotes the idea that a relationship will solve your problems. It shows perfect moments, but not the personal growth required to sustain real love. This leads many people to rush into relationships, compare themselves to others, and avoid doing the deeper work on themselves.

Build Yourself First

The strongest relationships come from individuals who are already working on themselves - building confidence, purpose, emotional stability, and values. When you do this, you enter a relationship ready to give, not just receive.

A relationship will not fix what you refuse to face. Work on yourself first, and you won’t be looking for someone to complete you - you’ll be ready to build something real.