Love vs. Lust: What No One Tells You About Real Love

You hear the word “love” everywhere. It’s in music, movies, and every other post on your feed. People say, “I love tacos,” “I love you,” or “I’m in love” - but what do they actually mean?

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Here’s the problem: the world has confused love with lust. And if you don’t learn the difference, it could hurt your heart - and your soul.

Lust is selfish. Love is selfless.

• Lust says, “What can I get from you?” Love says, “What can I give to you?”

• Lust uses. Love sacrifices.

• Lust takes shortcuts. Love takes time.

• Lust leaves you feeling empty. Love helps you become whole.
  
  

See the difference? Lust is all about instant gratification. It’s physical. Shallow. Temporary. It makes big promises, but it never delivers peace. That’s why so many people chase relationships or hook up culture and still feel alone. They’re craving real love - but settling for a cheap substitute.

Real love is patient. It’s kind. It doesn’t pressure. It doesn’t manipulate. It doesn’t say, “If you love me, you’ll do this.” It says, “I care about your soul more than my desires.” You were made to love - and be loved - like that.

But here’s the challenge: the world makes lust look normal. It’s in every Netflix series, music video, and meme. Purity is mocked. Waiting is “old-fashioned.” Guarding your heart? People act like it’s weakness.

But you know what’s weak? Giving in to every impulse. You know what’s strong? Saying no to what’s easy because you know you’re made for more.
God created love. He created your body. And He created sex - with purpose and power. But outside of the covenant of marriage, that gift becomes destructive instead of life-giving. That’s not shame. That’s truth.

God doesn’t say “don’t” because He’s trying to ruin your fun. He says it because He wants to protect your heart. Every time you give a piece of yourself to someone without commitment, it leaves a scar. But God can heal anything. And no matter your past, you can start again today.

So what should you look for in real love?

• Someone who honors your dignity.

• Someone who prays with you.

• Someone who encourages your purity.

• Someone who’s not in a rush.

• Someone who reflects God’s love, not just physical attraction.
  
  

And if you’re not dating yet, that’s okay. Use this time to become the kind of person who’s ready for real love. Build your relationship with Jesus. He’ll never use you. He’ll never walk away. His love is your foundation - and when you know that, you won’t fall for counterfeits.

Love is not just a feeling. It’s a decision. A sacrifice. A commitment.
So when the world shouts “lust is love,” you’ll know better.

You were made for the real thing.