Conflict Over Social Media Use

In today’s digital age, social media use is becoming a common source of conflict in relationships. Whether it’s disagreements about how much time is spent on social platforms, jealousy over interactions with others, or concerns about privacy, social media can create significant tension between partners.

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Therapist and author Esther Perel notes, “Social media has opened up new avenues for connection, but it can also create new insecurities and challenges in relationships.”

In therapy, couples often explore how social media is affecting their relationship. One common issue is the amount of time spent online. Partners may feel neglected or frustrated when their significant other is constantly on their phone or engaging with others online instead of spending quality time together.

Therapists encourage couples to set boundaries around social media use, ensuring that it doesn’t interfere with their relationship. Dr. John Gottman suggests that “couples create tech-free times, such as during meals or before bed, to prioritize connection with each other.”

Another common issue is jealousy or insecurity stemming from social media interactions. Partners may feel uncomfortable with their spouse’s online interactions, especially if they involve flirtation or connection with exes. Therapy helps couples address these insecurities by encouraging open communication and establishing clear boundaries.

Dr. Gottman advises, “Transparency is key. Partners should be open about who they’re interacting with online and reassure each other of their commitment.”

Social media can also create privacy concerns. One partner may feel that the other is oversharing personal details about their relationship or family. In therapy, couples discuss their comfort levels with online sharing and work on creating mutually agreed-upon guidelines for what is appropriate to share on social platforms.

Ultimately, conflict over social media use can be resolved through open communication, setting boundaries, and prioritizing real-life connection. Therapy provides a space for couples to address these issues and ensure that social media enhances rather than undermines their relationship.

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