Career Conflicts

Career conflicts can arise when one or both partners prioritize work over the relationship or when their career paths create tension, such as with long hours, frequent travel, or differing career goals. Dr. John Gottman notes, “Couples who successfully manage career conflicts are those who maintain open communication about their needs and priorities, ensuring that both partners feel valued and supported.”

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In therapy, couples explore how work-life balance is affecting their relationship. One common issue is that one partner feels neglected or unsupported because the other is focused on their career. Therapy encourages couples to discuss their feelings openly, finding ways to balance career ambitions with relationship needs.

Dr. Gottman advises, “It’s essential for partners to schedule time together, no matter how busy work gets. Consistent quality time helps prevent feelings of neglect.”

Therapists also address differing career goals. One partner may be focused on advancing their career, while the other may prioritize family or personal time, leading to conflicts about the future. Therapy helps couples explore these differences and find ways to compromise.

Dr. Harriet Lerner suggests that “couples need to respect each other’s ambitions while finding a way to maintain a shared vision for the future.”

Another issue is the impact of work-related stress on the relationship. Partners may bring home the emotional toll of work, leading to irritability or emotional withdrawal. Therapists help couples develop strategies for managing stress, such as setting boundaries around work discussions at home or practicing relaxation techniques together.

Ultimately, career conflicts can be resolved by finding a balance between work and relationship needs, ensuring that both partners feel valued and supported. Therapy provides couples with tools to navigate these conflicts while maintaining a strong connection.

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